Monday, July 23, 2007


I went to college with this guy that never seemed to lose his cool. No matter what was thrown at us, he didn't let it get to him. Of course he is a human being, so he would get frustrated or upset from time to time, but he never dwelled upon it. He simply wouldn't let the negativity take root. He never buried it deep inside only to blow up later, rather he really seemed to let it flow right past wind blowing around a lighthouse.

On top of that, he was always smiling. I know what you are thinking, after all it was college so maybe he was on something. But I don't think so because now we work together and he hasn't changed a bit. In fact, there's a lot more to get frustrated with at work than there ever was in college and it still doesn't faze him. Since I met him and to this day, I admire that quality to no end. The time has come for me to try and emulate that trait. I need to do this in order to become a better role model for my girls before its too late.

I've met other people like my friend from college, but their inner strength and patience comes from a love of Jesus Christ. That's terrific and I am happy for them, but I'm an agnostic so that's not really an option for me. I need a more pragmatic approach; therefore, I'm going to start practicing at work.

One person at work in particular really tries my patience. Communication with this person is often frustrating and drains me of all patience. I can literally feel arteries hardening within two minutes of "conversation". Rather than give this person so much power over my life, I'll respond instead of reacting. I'll do that by remembering that she is human too. I don't have to like her, I just have to remember that she's got problems just like I do. Looking from 30,000 feet, we're all just squirrels trying to get a nut, right? If I can do that, then maybe I can become a lighthouse myself. And if I can become a lighthouse, then maybe I can raise a couple of them too.